I had a couple of big speaking gigs last week and I was nervous. (Yes, I’m a coach who works with people to help them overcome their speaking nerves but I’m human too! Also, I’m actually glad that I still get a little nervous because a) it keeps me sharp and b) it means that I totally know what it feels like for my clients.)
So when I felt nervous last week that was okay. Also I know lots of stress management techniques!
So I took myself out for a walk to ground myself in nature, breathe deeply, clear my head, reaffirm positive messages to my subconscious and practise my speeches in my head.
On the way home I was attacked by a large dog. There was growling and biting….and he was pretty aggressive too.
But it was brilliant! For two reasons:
Firstly, because in that moment I wasn’t the least bit worried about my speaking gigs 🙂
Secondly, because I could feel the difference between 2 of the 3 stress triggers that I am always explaining in my stress management talks (see the Good, Bad and Ugly in the image here).
My body and brain reacted perfectly. My cardiovascular system, the neurotransmitters in my brain, my muscles and lungs – all chimed in with their contribution to manage the threat. 10 minutes later I was home and my physiological stress response was completely gone.
We’re actually perfectly evolved to handle attacks by animals and recover quite quickly.
We’re not yet evolved to handle worrying about stuff that hasn’t happened yet, or bullying, or financial worries – which is why that stress feels so bad, lasts so long and burns our bodies out.
However, you have everything you need within you to manage stress. You just have to know where your coping mechanisms are, build them up and practise using them.
The Resilience Hub is designed to teach you this, in just 3 minutes per week via bite-sized videos, documents and exercises.
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Until next week, mind yourself and steer clear of big dogs!
All the best,