The Fog of Familiarity

Posted Posted in Awakening, Coaching, Resilience

I saw this picture and thought, ‘What a beautiful place to live!’. Then I wondered if the people who live there appreciate how pretty it is. Would they look at where I live and wistfully think the same thing?! Familiarity sometimes becomes a fog that prevents us from seeing what’s right in front of us.  When is the last time you looked at your home and surroundings with fresh eyes?  Can you think back to a time, years ago, when you day-dreamed about what your future home would look like, and wondered how on earth to make it a reality? Suddenly, having to clean and maintain it doesn’t seem such a chore any more, does it? This is a simple but powerful switch in mindset that helps us to feel more gratitude, more in control, more resilient and ultimately much happier. It even makes the ironing easier for me!  I […]

Is your mindset ‘Open for Business’ for developing resilience?

Posted Posted in Business Coaching, Coaching, Online Training, Resilience

The importance of mindset in developing resilience can’t be overstated.  It’s one of the most important pillars of a resilient life and it features in my Resilience Framework – the one I designed based on years as a nurse and as a coach, and that I use regularly to help my 1:1 clients identify what’s working well and what needs more attention.   Luckily, like many of the other pillars, mindset is something you have control over.  It’s doesn’t rely on anyone else.  It’s within your power to improve it. To develop your level of resilience, your mindset must be programmed so that you are ‘Open for Business‘ in terms of personal growth. Experiences (both good and bad) are a wasted opportunity for personal growth if you don’t reflect on them and identify what you have learned from them. In the Resilience Hub this week there is a new video with […]

How our thoughts affect our performance

Posted Posted in Awakening, Business Coaching, Coaching, exams, Nurse Leadership, Online Training, Resilience

Research has shown that if we tell ourselves we’re not going to do well, the result is that we in fact don’t do well. Conversely, in that study when the same people who thought they wouldn’t perform well were told to just give it a go and reassured that they will probably pass the benchmark anyway, they performed just as well as other groups of people in the study. This tells us that when we do take action, even if we lack confidence or self-belief, we can usually perform at least as well as anyone else. And it also tells us that our noisy and opinionated Inner Critic has a measurable negative impact on how we perform. The more we fret, worry and listen to our Inner Critic, the more these thoughts become automatic. We train our brains into thinking negatively.  And then our decisions, perceptions and behaviours become influenced by these […]

Think resilience is about toughing it out?

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THINK RESILIENCE IS ABOUT ‘TOUGHING IT OUT’? It’s not! Resilience is not about hardening your shell, putting up a defensive wall around your emotions, fixing a gritted smile on your face or maintaining a ‘stiff upper lip’. It’s also not about ignoring your emotions when you face an upsetting challenge.One of the most important features of resilience is flexibility, rolling with what life throws at you, bending with the wind instead of breaking. We have a eucalyptus tree in our garden. During each storm that has come our way it bends, quite far actually because the wood of a eucalyptus is soft. It has never broken or lost any branches. After each storm it is still standing. And still growing. #Resilience If you are finding yourself ‘broken’ after challenges, or afraid of the next one because you don’t believe you can handle it, have a think about what needs to […]