One candle lights many others

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You may know that I am a member of BNI – a global business networking and referral organisation.  My chapter is the Rossmore Chapter, normally ‘stationed’ in the Hillgrove Hotel in Monaghan but online for now of course.  My fellow chapter members play a huge role in what I can safely call my resilient business mindset.  Positivity is the name of the game at weekly meetings.  It’s a culture that is fostered from the top down in the organisation, in every country, by everyone involved. (Side note, if you’d like to visit, it’s free, just let me know!) This week, Beth Misner, the wife of the founder of BNI, Ivan Misner, very sadly and quite suddenly passed away from cancer.  I never met her but by all accounts her positive nature shone brightly and all who met her bathed in that glow and was the better of it. She wrote […]

I was tempted, but I didn’t!

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On Wednesday 14.10.20 I spoke at the first online National Women’s Enterprise Day. It was more difficult for me than the breezy line above might suggest. Public speaking is waaayyy out of my comfort zone, as it is for the vast  majority of people. Ironically, and brilliantly, my topic was how to silence the inner critic.  How apt, because I had to use all the techniques I was teaching, over and over again in the run up to the event.  Which I’m grateful for actually, because it keeps me in touch with what others are feeling so I really do speak from experience. I was in the virtual green room a.k.a. Live Stage 2, and just before I came on air the technicians popped the main stage on my screen so I could see what everyone was seeing.  My heart was absolutely pounding.  I was sucking in air in deep […]

A model for changing habits, for good!

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In this post I’m going to introduce you to a model for behaviour change that’s often used in healthcare for people who need to overhaul their lifestyle in order to achieve better health. It’s a formula based on the process our thoughts go through before, during and after a change of habit is needed. That process is: Pre-contemplation. Contemplation. Preparation. Action. Maintenance. This model can help you if you can easily spot the stage where you tend to fall back, so that you can get over the hurdle and end up successfully putting a new habit in place. Pre-contemplation is the period where you know you need to make a change in the future.  You can harness this period by gathering facts, paying attention to your feelings, labelling them so you really understand what you are up against and so that you can start to develop confidence in your ability […]

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly (of stress)

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I had a couple of big speaking gigs last week and I was nervous.  (Yes, I’m a coach who works with people to help them overcome their speaking nerves but I’m human too!  Also, I’m actually glad that I still get a little nervous because a) it keeps me sharp and b) it means that I totally know what it feels like for my clients.) So when I felt nervous last week that was okay.  Also I know lots of stress management techniques! So I took myself out for a walk to ground myself in nature, breathe deeply, clear my head, reaffirm positive messages to my subconscious and practise my speeches in my head. On the way home I was attacked by a large dog.  There was growling and biting….and he was pretty aggressive too. But it was brilliant!  For two reasons: Firstly, because in that moment I wasn’t the […]

Have you ever stopped to plan your parenting?

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Are you a parent?   Have you ever stopped to consider what your parenting goals are?   We plan short journeys in the car, and yet we rarely, if ever, stop to think about how we want our children to be raised; what values we want to instill in them, what behaviours we want to role model for them, and equally important, what behaviours do we not want them to pick up!   Why not take time out of the hurly-burly of life to reflect and consider the big picture of your parenting. Get a paper and pen and sit down with your co-parent (or on your own if that’s the case, and if you are not a parent you could be the coach for your friends and relatives who are – they will love you for this!) and…   > give yourself the opportunity to discover your hidden parenting […]

How long did you celebrate your last success?

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How long did you celebrate your last big success? An hour?  A day? With the demands of modern life we tend to quickly acknowledge a success and then move on to the next challenge, sometimes barely noticing what we have achieved. A large part of success comes down to your mindset – so how can you have a success mindset if you always suppress joy when something goes right? The time we spend celebrating success should be in proportion to the time we worked for it. Think about a young person who completes a four-year degree in college.  They celebrate for a night, maybe two.  Then on to the next thing.  After four years of work this is not enough joy! Sitting in our joy for as long as we can releases health-enhancing happy hormones and endorphins which help to protect us from cancer, heart disease and other stress-related illnesses. […]

Resilience Role Models (4)

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Another week – another resilient role model in this themed blog series running for the month of March. Viktor Frankl is often mentioned when people are discussing resilient role models. He was a psychiatrist working in Austria when he was captured and interned in Auschwitz and other camps.  Although there is some controversy around some of the clinical interventions he had been involved in, it is to our great benefit that he survived the almost unsurvivable and that he explained so eloquently his observations of his reactions, and the reactions of fellow inmates, in the face of unimaginable adversity. He was struck by the difference between those who survived their time in the camp and those who didn’t, and ultimately he identified the will to survive and positive hopeful mindset as the crucial factor.  This in itself is also a point of debate with many experts critical of suggestion or […]

**Special Offer** Upgrade to full Resilience Hub and get 1 phone coaching session

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******SPECIAL OFFER******   Upgrade to the full Resilience Hub at the introductory rate while it’s still available and get a complementary phone coaching session.   Access to the entire dashboard of the Resilience Hub is currently available at an introductory rate of €49. From 1st February 2019 the full rate of €97 will apply.   However, the FIRST TEN people who upgrade from the free version to the paid version at the lower rate of €49 before 31st January will also receive a one hour complementary coaching session with me by phone.   By the way, you can use your coaching session to work through any issue, not just resilience – so if you have a life issue, are thinking of a career change or move, would like to work on your leadership style, build your confidence, silence your inner critic for-ev-er, or whatever is bugging you at the moment, […]

Hope floats

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Do you have days when you feel despair about your financial situation.  Those days when you have too much month at the end of your paycheck, or if you are self-employed you might be worried about a quiet month with another quiet month ahead. One of my favourite films is Hope Floats, starring Sandra Bullock and Harry Connick Jr.  I love it because it’s a gentle film with insightful moments, particularly Sandra Bullock’s narrative at the end about allowing time for hope to float to the surface. Yes, if we are generally well physically, emotionally and mentally, hope usually does float to the surface, but you can also nudge it along, getting it to surface faster so that you feel better quickly. In the Resilience Hub this week is a video with 6 things you can do right now (that won’t cost you any money) to help hope float for […]

Business Coaches know the best business tools!

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After I was a nurse and midwife, and before I became a coach, I was a VA (virtual assistant), so suffice to say that I know, and use, some of the best tools and software! These* are some of my favourites. Awesome Marketing Planner by The Girls Mean Business Click here to view my short video on why I love this! ; Powered by Mailchimp “Marketing automation for e-commerce businesses. Send beautiful emails, connect your e-commerce store, advertise, and build your brand.”  Simple to use, effective, creative, and free until you have really built up a significant subscriber list.  GDPR compliance options too. Thinkific “The online course platform you can trust with your business”.  Easy peasy to use, very quick to upload training content and lots of support and training to help newbies. Acuity Scheduling “Acuity Scheduling is your online assistant, working 24/7 to fill your schedule.”  The free version has more […]