10 days into dream job, I quit

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10 days after I started my dream job as a newly qualified midwife, I handed in my notice. I had dreamed of being a midwife for years.  Qualifying was a monumentally proud moment for me, not to mention the moments I was privileged to be see the arrival of many beautiful little humans (including 5 sets of twins) into the loving care of their parents. So why did I quit? At the time, I told myself it was a result of the distress of watching my patient, a 5 day old baby girl, have her ventilator switched off about a month earlier.  It was certainly a huge factor.  But knowing what I know now, I can see that there was a loud inner critic that I gave too much credibility to.  I was afraid that I wasn’t good enough. My irrational fear was made rational on the day before I […]

Credit (the good kind)

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Every time I deliver a resilience training session I encourage an exploration of what resilience means to attendees.  I’m always amazed to hear new perspectives from every group. This week’s training session was no different.  Participants broke it down to different kinds of resilience including frontline staff who come home from a tough day and have to quickly turn around a few hours later and go back in to face more.  I was picturing an airplane being ‘turned around’ between flights and the pressure to do it quickly and get back in the air.  Except of course frontline staff have more to ‘turn around’. Another kind of resilience mentioned was financial resilience, for example when someone wealthy loses all their assets, but is able to build it back up again.  That’s an extreme example, but financial resilience is probably something we don’t credit ourselves enough with. A conversation I had […]

3 steps to calm during chaos

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“We are where we are.” Was there ever a more comforting statement… It reminds us to live in the present moment – not ruminating on the past or fretting about the future.  Both are fruitless, energy-consuming activities. During chaos, moving into a state of presence is a retreat for a frantic and disordered mind. If you are not practised in mindfulness or meditation, try these simple steps: Take one deep breath and then allow your breathing to return to where it wants to be, effortlessly. Feel the ground under your feet. How would you describe it? What date is this? What day of the week?  What season?  What is nature doing to signal the season?  Can you hear birds?  Is it brighter at this time of day? Are flowers growing? This is not airy-fairy stuff.  The science behind it is solid. Mindfulness, meditation and just plain ‘slowing down’ works because […]

Covid-19 Self Isolation and Lockdown: Resilience Coaching and Training Options

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Build personal resilience / Leadership in a crisis Online 1:1 Coaching via Zoom or phone 1 hour               €100* 1.5 hours          €150* Contact Lisa to arrange a call first to discuss. Resilient Leadership (bespoke structured programme designed for each individual, 14 modules to choose from) 1:1 online coaching (1.5 hours) plus bespoke online resource platform built for you. €200* per month Contact Lisa to arrange a call first to discuss. The Resilience Hub 150 bite-sized online resilience tips and techniques via video, articles and downloadable exercises. Dip in and out as needed. Access to full dashboard for 12 months. €37.50* (half price during Covid-19 lockdown) Free version available too. Visit our Facebook page Free tips on building resilience. ‘Like’ or ‘Follow’ and set notifications to ‘See First’ to ensure you don’t miss any in your feed. Payment options: One4All Vouchers (payable via Stripe invoice by […]

When life throws a curveball

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If you noticed there was no Resilience Guide last week, my sincere apologies.  If you didn’t notice, I’m glad you were occupied and hope you were happily engaged elsewhere! All is well now, but last week I had a family emergency that needed my full attention. My diary had to be hastily cleared.  I had to ramp up my own self-care to be sure I could hold the fort and hold the ‘safe space’ for everyone else to cope and recover.   I had to be really aware of the effects of stress, that it was acute and severe, that my immune system would dip when the crisis was over (and indeed it did try to!) and I needed to mitigate that. But that all worked out fine, because over the past number of years I have paid regular attention to developing my strengths while practising a flexible and positive mindset. […]

Do you trust your own wings?

Posted Posted in Awakening, Coaching, Online Training, Resilience

We often think that other people are more resilient than us.  We look at people around us, well-known people, role models of resilience throughout history and we assume we would not be able to handle their challenges as well as they did, or still do. Resilience is not a trait that people either have or don’t have. It involves behaviours, thoughts, and actions that can be learned and developed in everyone. Resilience is about being adaptable. It’s about being flexible. It’s about recognizing that we’ve got strengths that perhaps we never knew we had until we have to use them. And like many things in life – the more we practise, the more we learn. You already have EVERYTHING you need within you to be resilient, you just need to be aware of it, work on it a little bit and keep doing that even when you think you aren’t […]

Flying trapeze – for brain health!

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If you regularly feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained and unable to meet constant demands, you might be burned out. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It has become so prevalent that the World Health Organization (WHO) added burnout to its International Classification of Diseases, IDC-11,  describing it as a syndrome “resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed…” There are many ways to avoid or manage burnout, one proven tactic is to have a hobby that’s purely for leisure.  Nowadays we let hobbies fall out of our lives because we are too busy, but when you’re really engaged in a hobby you love, you lose a sense of time and enter what’s called a flow state. When your brain is in a flow state, neurotransmitters in your brain — endorphins, norepinephrine and dopamine – are activated and these regulate your mood […]

Actively listening to enrich your life

Posted Posted in Awakening, Business Coaching, Clinical Leadership, Coaching, exams, Online Training, Resilience

I often speak about the difference between ‘hearing’ and ‘listening’, usually in relation to conversations in a leadership context, but this week I am focusing on how to listen, really listen, (and what to listen to!) as a simple form of mindfulness to help relieve stress. Listening is sometimes called an art and a science.  (In fact, I counted once – coaches are trained to listen in 11 different ways!). It is really important for our mental health to actively listen sometimes because it encourages our brain to work the way it’s supposed to.  Listening tunes our brain to the patterns of our environment faster than any other sense, and paying special attention to sounds, the non-visual parts of our world, feeds everything from our intellectual performance to our motor skills and coordination. Listening to the sounds around us, particularly sounds of nature, soothes an overactive mind and can alleviate […]

Close the Gate

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If you live in or visit a rural area, you will be aware of the need to always close a gate. It’s to keep livestock safe and to keep humans safe from the livestock that like to escape and explore the world! ‘Closing the barn door after the horse has bolted’ is a common expression to describe the futility of closing the gate too late. Did you know that there is a way to ‘close the gate’ of your mind – to be more focused, less distracted, better able to concentrate, and happier, every day? The latest video I’ve uploaded to The Resilience Hub explains in detail how to do it with a demo and the neuroscience behind it so that you will have a better understanding of how it works. If you haven’t yet signed up to The Resilience Hub you can do so for FREE here. Until next […]

How to prime a conversation

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For a long time now psychologists have noted the importance of warm physical contact between children and their caregivers. Researchers at Yale discovered something really interesting about the importance of temperatures in adults – and specifically how holding a hot or cold drink can affect behaviour and attitude. This is backed up by neuroscience and brain imagery, so it’s based on solid evidence. There is a new video this week in the ‘You Have What You Need‘ section of The Resilience Hub that explains this and how you can use this to your advantage to prepare for a difficult conversation at home or at work. If you haven’t yet signed up for the Hub you can do so via the links in this post.  Why not?  It’s FREE! Until next week, take care, Lisa.       Image credit:  Alexandru Stavrica via Unsplash