This is something I repeat often to my coaching clients and in #ResilienceWorkshops…
RESILIENCE IS NOT THE ABSENCE OF ADVERSITY!
Just because you are going through a challenge does not mean you are not resilient. In fact, just by getting up each day, working your way through it, wondering about the best solution, etc, you are displaying resilience. You are more resilient – and stronger – than you think. Spend any time with me in a 1:1 coaching session and I will prove it to you. Better still, you will see it yourself and believe it from within your own heart and soul.
This is something I have to remind myself of too. (Coaches are human as well – we have wobbles too!). When I remember this mantra, it’s easier to allow emotions to take their course, to wait patiently until a fearful moment has passed.
This too shall pass.
When we recognise that we are tired, worn out, sleep deprived or just plain ‘need some time off’, it’s crucial that we accept those facts, take time to rest and recover, forgive ourselves for a glitch, show ourselves the loving kindness we often show to others, and most importantly don’t make any life-altering decisions until we are back to ourselves.
Later, when we are back to normal thinking and have recovered, we can look back and identify what we have learned.
Then we bounce back.
We bounce back stronger.
We ARE in fact, resilient.