Do you take work home with you?

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One of the most common causes of stress, that my clients often speak about, is bringing work home with them.  When you carry a lot of responsibility, for example if you are responsible for vulnerable people like children or patients, or when you feel the weight of responsibility for your staff, worried about making sure you make enough money to pay them, it’s very difficult to park that at 5 o’clock. Here are five things to do when you find you can’t leave work behind and the stress is starting to take its toll on your mental or physical health. Be in the moment while doing each task at work. By this I mean really focus on what you’re doing, not on the 10 other things you need to do. Easier said than done I know but if you can it will help your brain to park it once you’re […]

How deep is your Well?

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When we wonder how we can build our resilience, it can be useful to think of resilience as a well. When the going gets tough you tap into your ‘Well of Resilience‘. If your well is deep and full – if you have effectively maintained it through focused action and attention – you will quickly return to a sense of calm and clarity. If you haven’t been refilling your well when resources were plentiful, it will quickly run dry – resulting in burnout. When your ‘Well of Resilience’ is deep and replenished, you will be supported by: A sense of calm Clarity and very clear focus on what’s important. Hope for the future Confidence and fulfilment. What happens when your ‘Well of Resilience’ is depleted? Fear Reactivity – you react to external triggers rather than responding in a measured way Impatience Negativity and resentment Overwhelm and exhaustion Anxiety or depression Disengagement What […]

When you feel least resilient, is actually when you are most…

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This is the final week of this themed series looking at resilient role models and today I’m going to suggest something a little radical. I’d like you to view yourself as your own resilient role model. We often think that others are more resilient than we are.  We look at them in awe and think “How do they keep going?”, “I could never do that”. I would like to challenge those thoughts. If you are a parent who found hidden depths of energy during period of exhaustion (night-time feeding, teething, tantrums, illness, unexpected trips to A&E) – you are resilient. If you are a carer who yearns for a break, but who keeps going nevertheless, you are resilient. If you have had to fight for the basic rights of someone you love (education, special needs assistance, psychological assessment, home care, palliative care, access to services, etc), you are resilient. If you […]

Resilience Role Models (4)

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Another week – another resilient role model in this themed blog series running for the month of March. Viktor Frankl is often mentioned when people are discussing resilient role models. He was a psychiatrist working in Austria when he was captured and interned in Auschwitz and other camps.  Although there is some controversy around some of the clinical interventions he had been involved in, it is to our great benefit that he survived the almost unsurvivable and that he explained so eloquently his observations of his reactions, and the reactions of fellow inmates, in the face of unimaginable adversity. He was struck by the difference between those who survived their time in the camp and those who didn’t, and ultimately he identified the will to survive and positive hopeful mindset as the crucial factor.  This in itself is also a point of debate with many experts critical of suggestion or […]

Resilience Role Models (3)

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Resilience Tip of the Month here! – What to do when you go blind in space… In April 2001, Commander Chris Hadfield suited up and went outside the International Space Station with a colleague to do some work. A few minutes later, the oil and soap mixture that was used to keep his visor clean got into his eye.  It stung his eye very badly and his eye teared up.  In zero gravity tears don’t fall out of the eye – they remain on the surface of the eye, effectively creating a pool of water between the eyelids.  The more his eye got irritated the more tears it produced.  Surface tension dragged then dragged that pool of tears, oil and soap across the bridge of his nose and into the other eye. He was effectively blinded, out in space, holding on with one hand to a Space Station that’s travelling […]

Resilience Role Models (2)

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What makes resilient people resilient? This week we continue our focus on resilient role models – people in the public eye who are recognised as having real determination and grit in the face of adversity. Helen Keller Most who have both sight and hearing would say it would be extremely difficult to manage without either sense, but almost impossible to have a life without both. Yet Helen Keller didn’t just manage, she thrived, lived a full life and even wrote and inspired others who are more fortunate than her.  She achieved a Bachelor of Arts degree.  She published 12 books and founded Helen Keller International to help reduce caused of blindness.  She was aware though, that her story sometimes facilitated a belief that people with disabilities could and should strive to exceed expectations, so she worked hard to address that. In her first every public speech in February 1913 she […]

Resilience Role Models (1)

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What makes resilient people resilient? We are inclined to look at others and think they are more resilient than us. But this is simply not true.  You have the capacity to be as resilient as anyone you have admired for their grit and ability to bounce back. This month the focus of these blog posts will be on resilient role models – people in the public eye that participants at my resilience talks have identified as displaying real determination and grit in the face of adversity. Our exploration of their inner strength is not just to highlight their successful conquering of the most challenging of situations, but as inspiration if we can see how we might replicate their attitudes and behaviours in our daily lives. Nelson Mandela In my talks, and in most studies carried out by researchers around the world, Nelson Mandela is often the first person named when people […]

5 ways to boost brain power

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I notice a cautionary note that is often made in relation to building our resilience which is that the aim is not to build resilience so we can take on more, or do more, or squeeze more out of our day, and I completely agree with that. Many of the techniques I use in coaching and in my resilience training and talks is the importance of prioritising, cutting out the clutter from our lives, letting stuff go, realising when we have done enough, the importance of rest and recovery and how crucial it is that we factor time for rest and recovery into our days. As the saying goes, it’s about working smarter, not harder. This week the newest video in The Resilience Hub is five ways to boost our brain power. These are things we can do to optimise our brain’s performance and cognitive ability – WITHOUT getting too […]

Hopeful Activities

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One of the tools we can use to build and maintain our resilience is a set of what I call ‘Hopeful Activities’. What do I mean by ‘Hopeful Activities’? Well, these are some go-to-actions that we can do when we’re feeling stuck or even feeling a little down or challenged. In the Resilience Hub this week is a new video with some examples to help you, or even help you think of some hopeful activities of your own. If you are sick with worry about something I invite you to find at least one ‘hopeful activity’ that you can do. It creates hope. It distracts you and gives you something to focus on. Until next week, take care of yourself, Lisa

Capturing moments of gratitude

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Benjamin Disreali said “Nurture your minds with great thoughts. To believe in the heroic makes heroes.” If you make a consistent and sustained effort to think positive thoughts, and to reframe every situation in a positive light, you can retrain your brain over time so that positive thought processes become more natural, more of a habit and easier to do. I often talk about the value of gratitude for reframing challenging situations and making them easier to bear.  One of the most common tips (and I use this often myself as a tip and as a habit) is to keep a gratitude journal where you write regularly – preferably every day – several things that you are grateful for. I recently came across an interesting alternative, just to mix things up or if you just can’t create the habit of writing every day. There are so many apps now that […]