Actively listening to enrich your life

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I often speak about the difference between ‘hearing’ and ‘listening’, usually in relation to conversations in a leadership context, but this week I am focusing on how to listen, really listen, (and what to listen to!) as a simple form of mindfulness to help relieve stress. Listening is sometimes called an art and a science.  (In fact, I counted once – coaches are trained to listen in 11 different ways!). It is really important for our mental health to actively listen sometimes because it encourages our brain to work the way it’s supposed to.  Listening tunes our brain to the patterns of our environment faster than any other sense, and paying special attention to sounds, the non-visual parts of our world, feeds everything from our intellectual performance to our motor skills and coordination. Listening to the sounds around us, particularly sounds of nature, soothes an overactive mind and can alleviate […]

Close the Gate

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If you live in or visit a rural area, you will be aware of the need to always close a gate. It’s to keep livestock safe and to keep humans safe from the livestock that like to escape and explore the world! ‘Closing the barn door after the horse has bolted’ is a common expression to describe the futility of closing the gate too late. Did you know that there is a way to ‘close the gate’ of your mind – to be more focused, less distracted, better able to concentrate, and happier, every day? The latest video I’ve uploaded to The Resilience Hub explains in detail how to do it with a demo and the neuroscience behind it so that you will have a better understanding of how it works. If you haven’t yet signed up to The Resilience Hub you can do so for FREE here. Until next […]

How to prime a conversation

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For a long time now psychologists have noted the importance of warm physical contact between children and their caregivers. Researchers at Yale discovered something really interesting about the importance of temperatures in adults – and specifically how holding a hot or cold drink can affect behaviour and attitude. This is backed up by neuroscience and brain imagery, so it’s based on solid evidence. There is a new video this week in the ‘You Have What You Need‘ section of The Resilience Hub that explains this and how you can use this to your advantage to prepare for a difficult conversation at home or at work. If you haven’t yet signed up for the Hub you can do so via the links in this post.  Why not?  It’s FREE! Until next week, take care, Lisa.       Image credit:  Alexandru Stavrica via Unsplash

Your brain’s super-highway

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In this post I am going to introduce you to your Corpus Callosum. This is the bridge network that connects the two hemispheres of your brain – the right creative side – and the left analytical side.  It integrates the motor, sensory and cognitive functions of your brain. Corpus Callosum is Latin for ‘Tough Body’ and that’s appropriate because it’s the largest connective pathway of our brain.  It’s even shaped like a letter ‘C’ – C for Corpus Callosum. It starts forming in the brain about 12 weeks after conception, although its development can be disrupted as early as 6 weeks into the pregnancy by things like rubella, if the mother consumes a lot of alcohol or a gene that sometimes causes malformation. It is mostly developed by the time we are 12 years old.  It was only discovered by scientists as recently as the 1950s. It plays an important […]

Succeed without burning out.

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Do you find yourself having great ideas for your business when you are at traffic lights or in the shower, but then get caught up in the busyness of business and life? Days, weeks and months go by and the idea remains just a wishful thought.  For various reasons you haven’t been able to take it any further. If you are serious about wanting to make changes to progress and to move up a level you need to hire a coach. Your coach is an invisible partner in your business, a sounding board that’s safe and confidential, helping you to see things with fresh eyes, helping you overcome any blocks or self-limiting beliefs you have (we all have!) that hold you back, and holding you accountable so that you actually take the necessary steps and move forward. Maybe you have thought of hiring a coach but you’re worried that your […]

You have what you need

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Readers who have subscribed to The Resilience Hub will find a brand new section in there today, called ‘You Have What You Need‘ This will be a collection of short videos explaining some aspect of your human physiology that’s in place already, that you may not know is there, that you can harness to build resilience and manage stress, and that you can use to your advantage. The beauty of this is that you don’t need to have a certain level of education or IQ.  You don’t need to be any particular personality type.  You don’t even need money in your pocket.  You have all of these, built in since you were born. The first video in this series has been posted today so if you haven’t yet signed up to The Resilience Hub yet you can do so via this link. (It’s in the free section for the moment). […]

Switch!

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One of the biggest challenges we face in building our confidence and resilience is… ourselves! Our negative self-talk is possibly the most disempowering aspect of our mind.  It’s an extension of our survival instinct, honed over millions of years of evolution. Our mind is always watching out for danger.  In today’s world actual life and death situations thankfully rarely occur, so when it can’t identify a danger easily, it looks harder. When it still can’t find anything to be properly scared of, it makes stuff up, exaggerates small things and remains on high alert because it doesn’t like having nothing to focus on. The part of the brain that does this is the amygdala.  It serves us sometimes (like when we jump out of the way of an oncoming car before we consciously realise what’s happening).  But it needs to be trained and reassured. With practice we can teach our highly […]

Have you ever stopped to plan your parenting?

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Are you a parent?   Have you ever stopped to consider what your parenting goals are?   We plan short journeys in the car, and yet we rarely, if ever, stop to think about how we want our children to be raised; what values we want to instill in them, what behaviours we want to role model for them, and equally important, what behaviours do we not want them to pick up!   Why not take time out of the hurly-burly of life to reflect and consider the big picture of your parenting. Get a paper and pen and sit down with your co-parent (or on your own if that’s the case, and if you are not a parent you could be the coach for your friends and relatives who are – they will love you for this!) and…   > give yourself the opportunity to discover your hidden parenting […]

Why we get sick on first day of holidays

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Have you ever gone on holidays, and spent the first few days sick? There are many reasons for this but one cause is the stress of working harder to finish up before our time off. We’re in a state of well-being when there is a gentle ebb and flow of hormones. Small amounts of stress are beneficial: – cortisol helps us to metabolise cholesterol – and adrenaline fights off cold viruses With small amounts our body bounces back easily. But, when we have excessive stress our body loses its balance and bounces back too far at first, and our immune system drops. When our immune system dips (like when we are tired, undernourished, sleep deprived or when we let our body temperature drop) we are more susceptible to viruses like the cold virus and flu virus.  Airplanes are also notorious spaces for catching viruses because lots of us are in a […]

How long did you celebrate your last success?

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How long did you celebrate your last big success? An hour?  A day? With the demands of modern life we tend to quickly acknowledge a success and then move on to the next challenge, sometimes barely noticing what we have achieved. A large part of success comes down to your mindset – so how can you have a success mindset if you always suppress joy when something goes right? The time we spend celebrating success should be in proportion to the time we worked for it. Think about a young person who completes a four-year degree in college.  They celebrate for a night, maybe two.  Then on to the next thing.  After four years of work this is not enough joy! Sitting in our joy for as long as we can releases health-enhancing happy hormones and endorphins which help to protect us from cancer, heart disease and other stress-related illnesses. […]